Sep 19 2008
Relationship Advice: Parenting Pitfalls - Spanking
There is a lot of conflicting relationship advice on the effect that spanking has on your children. Most everyone would agree that it does have the potential to stop bad behavior in the short, immediate future, but a lot of relationship advice doesn’t really know what else to say about it. Well, here’s the down and dirty relationship advice on what happens with your children. When you spank them because of misbehavior, it’s normally because we can’t think of any other method to discipline. But, start looking for relationship advice about spanking and you’ll see that it tends to stop misbehavior for the short-term, but in the long term, it only teaches children to do as they’re taught.
Relationship advice columnists will tell you that kids can strike back for revenge at their parents in a myriad of ways, and so even if you do discipline them through spanking, that won’t stop them from doing different things, such as purposely forgetting you ever assigned them chores just so that they can get back at you. So, really, instead, find a different solution.
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I have an 11-month-old who is already exhibiting signs of defiance when I tell her “No.” I praise her constantly, but there is that side of her that obviously wants to test me when I instruct her not to do something she wants to do. I try to be creative in disciplining her (such as by distracting with a safer alternative, removing her from the situation or the situation from her, explaining the dangers even though she may not yet understand, firmly reiterating my discontent with her behavior, and placing her in a playpen for alone time and emphasis) because I do not want to: 1. teach her that hitting someone is the way to get what you want, 2. teach her that it’s better to conform for conformity’s sake rather than understanding the logical reasoning behind doing certain behaviors, or 3. admonish her physically when I am distraught by her behavior and risk harming her physically or emotionally. Check my daily blog at: glue4families.today.com. I will address issues such as this daily. In fact, I think I will post this response to my blog. I will visit your blog again because this was an interested read.
Davida
This is definitely true, and just scratches the surface on why spanking is such a poor choice. Good post!